So I posted on FB a couple days ago about Mad Max and how he loves “Where is my mind” by The Pixies.
I cannot get over his response. It is making me appreciate his brain in a way that I can’t accurately describe – and isn’t that the point of music? Really of art of any kind? To give credence to a feeling when words escape you?
What does it say about a 4 (almost 5) year old that his favorite songs are “First” and “WIMM”?
To me it means that he must be incredibly incredibly complex. His answer (for those of you who missed it) when I asked him why he liked this song so much was
“Because it looks like a construction site – but it’s a song.”
Does he identify with construction sites past the point of normalcy for little boys?? And by normalcy I mean your basic “ooohhh machines!”. Does the chaos, noise, and his love for metal and engines reflect his mind?.
I imagine that the ADHD represents the chaos – it must he very hard for him to pin down any one thought or emotion at any given time so chaotic chords (and machinery) must sound familiar to him in an innate way. An internal noise he hasn’t identified but is always just intrinsically there.
What about the Asperger’s and the sensory processing disorder? He is torn (I personally feel) between these and the ADHD because while the ADHD can cause him kind to be all over the place, the Asp can make him feel out of place and make him want to focus on the things that ground him. That is UNDOUBTEDLY machinery. He was born with the mind of an engineer and it is truly amazing to watch him create, and tinker with engines. The chaos internally is that he DESPERATELY wants to focus on the things that he loves, but he has a very hard time doing so – and this triggers high emotion and poor behavior that can be confusing when you’re not in tune to what’s going on for him,
Maybe that’s why he likes construction sites and this song. I can see the similarity.
But that he, a 4 year old, could somehow make that connection, and vocalize it is beyond me.
Thank you, special boy for being in my life and helping me to understand how complex and intelligent children can be. They are so much more than we often give them credit for <3
Or maybe he just likes machines 😉 